Sophia posted today's Friday Five for the
RevGalBlogPals blog:
Earlier this week the U.S. celebrated Veterans' Day, known in many other countries as Remembrance Day. At this time last year I was commuting to a postdoc in Canada, and I was moved by the many red poppies that showed up there on people's lapels in honor of the observance. Unlike a flag lapel pin, which to me has political connotations and implies approval of our current war, the poppies simply honor the sacrifice and dedication of those who have followed their consciences by serving--sometimes dying--in the military.
This week's Friday Five invites reflection on the theme of remembrance, which is also present in the feasts of All Saints, celebrated in many liturgical churches on November 1, and All Souls--known in Latin@ cultures as the Day of the Dead--celebrated in some the following day.
1. Did your church have any special celebrations for All Saints/All Soul's Day? I've thought about posting about my church's All Saints Day celebrations and am glad for this opportunity. I was surprisingly gifted with the holiness of the communion of saints that day.
Our interim priest arranged for an inter-generational event between the services that Sunday--making paper chains, with each loop bearing the name of a departed person we loved. When I arrived, mostly teenagers were noisily stapling the bands of paper together on which the office staff had printed those who had died since the church's foundation in 1950. I did not expect any feelings at all when I started to write out the names of my parents and then friends who died in the past. I was surprised at the feelings of love I felt as I wrote more and more names, including
Joe and
Len, friends who died in 2008.

Before the late service, the youth wrapped the long chain around the altar. This contributed to the feelings of connection, even though my mind scoffed at the idea. My heart knew!
The music was the homily for the day, with the choir singing the Te Deum. Before that, the priest solemnly read out each name of a member of
All Saints Episcopal Church since its beginning. Though I knew very few of the people named, I was totally attentive and appreciative of each person. That still surprises me; I can only thank God for the gift of awareness I was given. I did not try--and know that during other years of services, I could be antsy during the long reading of names.
What a gift of remembrance I was given.
2. How about Veterans' Day?
Not much was done on this day, except me remembering my parents and praying for soldiers.
3. Did you and your family have a holiday for Veterans' Day/Remembrance Day? If so, how did you take advantage of the break?
No.
4. Is there a veteran in your life, living or dead, whose dedication you remember and celebrate? Or perhaps a loved one presently serving in the armed forces?
Both of my parents were Marines in WW II. In fact, they met in Hawaii at a dance on the base. I am proud of my mother volunteering to be a woman Marine at that time. I am proud of my father serving in the Marine Corps for 24 years; for rising from a private through the ranks to retire as a Major; for receiving the Silver Star and Purple Heart medals in the Korean War/Conflict.

(Even though I am for peace, I grew up on Marine bases and still have pride in the U.S. Marine Corps.)
5. Do you have any personal rituals which help you remember and connect with loved ones who have passed on?
They are mostly "food" rituals! Until my mother died in 1992, she spent every Christmas with me. She struggled with leaving my dad for Christmas, but finally realized that he didn't care much about Christmas and did not mind her leaving WA for TX.
My mother always made wonderful cookies for Christmas, something I continue to do. She also made cinnamon rolls for Christmas morning, which both MJ and I have been doing since my mother's death. My mother would bring the pieces of a gingerbread house for the kids to put together and decorate every Christmas. That's one tradition I always want to do, but do not always plan enough to get it all together.